|
Behaviors
Dealing with this behavior often finds a parent feeling like they are living in "the twilight zone" ... how can a child be so sweet and manipulating and succeed and then return to "behind closed doors" (often called home) and show a completely different scenario ... we too have experienced timeframes where it seems like I should have the degree in ordering treatment (both therapy and medication) as my instincts and decisions (and forcing professionals to do this or that ... i.e., medicate) are more on the mark than could be possible from a logic standpoint. You are not alone ... the one factor here that will be most important is making decisions for situations in advance (or as advance as they can be) and consistency in her and you knowing the consequences for actions ... the respite for the family funeral is perfect ... do not let her make the choices for what you will and will not do ... yes, easier said than done I know ... and because you have more than one child in the house affected by this manipulation and control attempt - make sure they all know what to expect and while they have to put up with some (part of being in any family) they don't have to give up all for her ....
Hoping some of that makes sense and helps ... no one, and I mean no one, totally understands unless they have been here and done this and hoping knowing you are not alone and you have a place to vent, for support and most of all caring gets you through ...
|