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Thanks Rachel,
Descrimination was very much part of the problem with us before. It is ironic that they would not allow us as a caucasian family to adopt any child of color...be it AA or biracial because they said we lived in an all white community. But...my Indian daughters are darker in skin tone and internationally there was never an issue!! The so called "all white" community I live in accepted my daughters with no reservations and they are somewhat celebrities among their peers. Descrimination is still a problem in the Foster/Adopt area. My friend was trying to adopt two biracial children a year ago. They were "desperate" to find a family for them. She found out about their case and had wonderful conversations with the Social Worker. Their homestudy was approved and they were very open to the fact that even though the children were biracial...they were going to place them into this caucasian family. They loved the idea that my friend did not work outside the home etc. It was a "sure" thing...until this same caseworker came to their home and found out that they were W. Methodist. They do not own a TV. and live simply as to their faith. Everything was pulled at that second. They thought the children would be too sheltered and the caseworker just kept telling her..."if you just owned a TV." This was more important to the caseworker than the fact that my friend homeschools her children...there are three biological children in the home who were very intelligent...kind...and respectful...that the home was neat as a pin and clean. That the entire family were family centered and that they were kind and gentle parents. NOOOOO...the fact that they didn't believe in bringing outside influences into the house with TV...was the biggest issue. All of these children speak very clearly...are not shy...play the piano...and are very social. They were happy and extremely well adjusted. Now if that isn't descrimination against religion...I don't know what is. This same family is now happily adopting a two year old from Pune India. And then people on these messages boards form opinions about people who adopt internationally. Most of us who do have been through the process here and have no choice but to look elsewhere. If anyone can recommend a very good agency which seems to have a lot of AA children and are having trouble finding families to take them...I am VERY interested to get the information. Maybe after Maya is home from India...we will once again open ourselves up to domestic adoption. We were bitter for years over how we were treated before. I know that some states are better than others...I am open to any and all suggestions as to where to look. Thanks for letting me vent...Karen
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