We have a biological son and adopted a baby girl. My son was 5 at the time and prayed all the time for a sister or brother. We were unable to have another of our own and decided to adopt from Russia. Just like you, I was concerned about the long waits for an infant in the U.S. Our adopted daugter was 4 months old when we flew to pick her up. Oh, it only took us 4 months from the agency application to bringing her home! Yes, that is very quick I know!!
Anyway, since then, it's been 4 years now, our son and daughter never even argued up until this year! My son is 10 and daughter is age 4. I knew the sibling rivalry would happen some time. No big deal, just little bickering. Besides that, they tell each other they love each other, give hugs, kisses. They are very close!
Oh, I wanted to comment on you saying you wonder about yourself feeling selfish because you are able to have a baby and are thinking about adopting instead. You are very UNSELFISH! That is a beautiful thing for you to do!!(wanting to adopt to help a child in need) The child that you adopt will be very lucky to have you as parents! God bless you!!!
Good Luck!
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