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Long before my dh and Discovered that we we IF we had planned to adopt after "making" a couple of kids. We felt that with so many chidlren in need of homes it didn't make sense for use to keep making more chidlren when we would be just as hppy raisning adopted children.
IF however changed our time line. We adopted 2x (domestically) and then pursued fertility treatment. Ultimately it did not work so we adopted again. One of theings we learned in our adoption experience is that while there can be long waits for the mre sought after chidlren, healthy children with even one AA grandparent are hard for agencies to place. So if you are open to ethnicity and sex (there are more boys than girls placed) you are not preventing anyone from adopting by taking one of these chidlren. The sad fact is that a healthy newborn full AA male child has ony a 25% chance of being adopted at birth. The problem is so great that agencies and attorneys regularly reduce their fees (sometimes below their cost) to entice families to adopt these babies.
International adoption is a great way to build your family especially if you have a strong attaction to a particular country or culture. If however you are looking for children who need homes they are right here in your backyard as well as overseas. None of my adoptions took more than 10 months from initial agency contact the total we sent for all three was $10k.
lisa
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