[thanksgivingmom]

I was completely and totally prepared (or so I thought) for a closed adoption. I had bought into the "out of sight out of mind" mentality. The "it will be easier to move on" idea. Then I gave birth.

Four days later I was left a letter from the woman that would become my daughters Mother. It said it was her greatest wish that DD know me. Suddenly, everything changed. I realized that I could do it. For me, it took being there and realizing the amazing connection that had developed during pregnancy and birth. It was something I really couldn't comprehend before it happened.

Having said that, that's what happened with ME. If your emom doesn't want that, it must be respected. Pictures and updates CAN turn to more, but be prepared for them not to as well...