Actually, up until the last few months, after I found him on the art site, I can't remember any derogatory remarks or questions.....but then again, I have ADD and things do occasionally (!!!) go right by me, and I don't even notice.....
But interestingly enough since I found him and, of course was doing the tippie toe dance all over town, and showing photos of him from that web dite to everyone who I could corral.....and after 2 weekd or so since I posted a couple (OK, 14) of notes for hyim and hadn't heard anything from him.....I was now showing pictures and asking anyone I knew even slightly....a mistake I would urge everyone to avoid,.....as to why he hadn't gotten in touch with me. VERY BAD IDEA!!
Well, my true friends were as supportive as they could be, lot's of "give him time" and statements like that........but the ones who really got to me were the so called friends who with a dismissive and scornful glance at my by now dog-eared photos, would say charming things like...."Oh he's probably just not interested in having anything to do with you" after all you did "give him up" (aside to everyone , can't we find a better phrase than THAT?????, and I don't think much of "relinguish" either, sounds like we lost the side out in a ball game)
They seem to equate "give him up" to leaving him in a dumpster.....
And I have this silly notion that your friends job is not to point out the bad reasons, heaven knows you do that enough on your own..... but to try to help you cope. and blunt semi-nasty comments just made me see red. I was glad I was leaving town for good, cause several people were rude to the point that I was looking for baseball bats!!
There are lots of times I don't like people very much, they're not just rude and unthinking, some of them are just flat out MEAN!!! Ah but I never have to go back there again....
weird though how a few words will stick in your head for months and even years!
Sally