Hi Lovely, we welcome anyone in the adoption triad here, Glad you found us, I would like to say though that just because we can have babies doesnt make us worthy of being a parent. I am glad to hear that you are adopting this precious child, who didnt ask to be neglected ,nor did this child ask to come into this world so god bless you for being there for her.

Now I would like to give my opinion on bmom, remember first though that it is my opinion and what I believe, take what helps and leave the rest! :-) I think all bmoms (even the bad ones) deserve the right to know that their child is alive and healthy, be it through pictures or letters or phone calls, if it is not in the best interest of the child to have visitation then that is your call but in my heart I think she at least deserves to know the child is ok. I am sure alot of people wont see it that way and that is ok, but I believe that "sometimes" we all do things for reasons not everyone may know about, some things unintentional and sometimes just bad choices that in many years to come we will regret and wish we could do differently, So as I said before jsut my opinion and I wish you the best of luck in your adoption journey!