[Lovely]

i'm new to this and have been peeking around. i am adopting my brother's 19 mo old daughter. she was taken by the state for neglect and i have had custody of her for little over a year now. i have been waiting for this adoption to finalize with plans of not bothering with her bparents when it was concluded. they have alot of personal issues (drugs, etc.) and i also don't want to co-parent either. i know you may think i belong in the aparent forum but i really feel i will learn a little more from bparents - on how to deal with bparents. thanks to you all i see the bmom in a different light. (i really don't like her that much.) i also don't plan to cut them off completely. i now realize that there is a way to do this and we all win. most importantly, the baby wins. i welcome your thoughts and advice.