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Write the letter already!
What difference does it make if she's Mormon or not? Talk about what you have in common: this beautiful baby. You should be able to write twenty pages about that!!! Write a few pages about what is going on now and then send more stories as soon as possible.
Write to her about how you've taken so long because you've not known what to say. That will help her realize that she's not alone in not knowing how to build this relationship. Make sure to honor any commitments you have made in the past, especially from your last meeting (if that applies).
The most important thing is being honest and building a trusting relationship. If you tell her you're going to do something, DO IT! Don't make excuses
Send lots and lots of photos. If you have a digital camera and a good program, you can easily make wonderful scrapbook pages and journal the photos for her. Make copies - for the birth parents, and for the life book...Grandparents may like you to do something similar for them!!!
This doesn't need to be hard. Writing letters to my two daughters' birth mothers is so rewarding. We do it monthly. We actually completely opened up (letters, e-mails, phone calls, visits) our first adoption right after finalization because the communication over that year had gone so well we felt like it was silly to go through the agency anymore. Our second adoption, the birth mom didn't want as much openness and so we just send stuff to a file at the agency until she is ready for it. I wish that their birth fathers were in the picture, too. Maybe someday we'll be able to make copies for them, but for now we just keep all of them in our prayers and hearts.
Good luck.
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