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Since you said you didn't want to be rude...some "nice" replies I can think of.

"I'm sure you didn't mean to be rude and insensitive and I'd be more than happy to educate you on adoption if you would like?"

"Not real? I'm confused....is your husband who is not blood related to you, real?"

"What do you mean by real? Or did you mean simply that I'm not his biological parent?"

"Interesting...so if your baby has a bad night and you are obviously his biological mother, what does that mean?"

"Wasn't it James Earl Jones, the famous actor, who said "Family relationships come from real bonding, not from something imagined, or a presumption about genetic inheritance."?