[Hadley2]

Thanksgivingmom, and any other birth mothers out there who went unacknowledged on Mothers Day and feel slighted--I truly believe, especially if all other signs point to the mother being a generally decent, caring person--that, far from disrespecting you, she was probably trying to be sensitive to your feelings and not rub salt into what could be a painful wound. Or, being so new to this two-mother concept or busy with the new life in her care, hasn't had enough time and experience to wrap her brain around it or integrate it into her perspective to really realize that you feel this is your day, too. It may simply not have occurred to her. Or, it could be as simple a thing as that she only sends her own mother a card, maybe her MIL, and that's it. I know personally, I am that way--there are too many holidays and too many people I am "supposed" to remember, so I KISS--e.g., the only people who get anything from me on Valentine's Day are DH and the kids.