[joskids]

Yet again, I completely agree with Linny. A child should be CELEBRATED, not just "tolerated" in a family. If you are willing to let your relationship with your father go by the wayside in order for you to give your black child a strong sense of self-esteem, then that's what you might have to do. Consider that your child will sense the negativity and it will impact their life. Because I'm CC and DH is AA, our very integrated families work well together and are very accepting. I feel for those that arent. I wouldn't want to have to make that decision but I would if I had to. Any family or friend who could not accept a decision I had made, would not be accepting and RESPECTING me. I can't imagine allowing anyone in my life who feels this way. As a matter of fact, I've gladly let friends go by the wayside who didn't "appreciate my lifestyle."