Hi All!
I know that this is a possible anger-causing issue... but I really need some level-headed advice. So, if you're prepared to keep your cork intact...
I'm a teacher and there is a foster child, K, at our school with whom I've made a real connection. K is a AA/CC male. I've always known I wanted to adopt, and that adopting from other races isn't an issue with me or DH. However, my dad will most probably have a big problem with it.
Firstly, I love my dad. He has faults, but who among us doesn't? His major fault, IMHO, is his racist views of AA. I am torn between honoring my parents and taking care of an orphan - from the Bible on how to be a good person, basically. My parents are Christian, where I got my views, but my dad also went through the experience of being shot at during the race riots & many other things that instilled this wrongness into his psyche. I'm not excusing his views, just explaining. So, I got the Christian views, saw they were in conflict with the racist views, and chose my side.
So, DH and I were planning to adopt within our race unless my dad passed away. (I know. Terrible.) However, with real-life K entering the picture, I find myself in the place of needing to talk to my father about the reality.
Wow. That was a lot of background to ask for your stories of your similar experiences, how you dealt with them, and how they are going.
Thanks for your patience. If you hate my dad, please know that I understand your POV, but don't need negativity. I didn't bring this up for my dad to get bashed. I really need help.
Thanks,
carebeargirl