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I have not been there, but think that your daughters' have come up with a great idea. I can't imagine what giving a child for adoption, let alone two children, is like, whether it's an open adoption or not, but I can tell you how grateful I am that there are mothers willing to take a hard look at this option.
We took our niece because her mother was unfit, and we are finalizing our adoption now. We wanted children, but weren't looking to adopt. In going through ours I have come to have enormous and deep respect for those families who can make the decision that you are making. I used to think that it was strange for women to give up their children to other families. But I don't anymore. Not by a long shot. In fact, I think it's part of being a good mother. There's nothing wrong with being a young, single mother, and wanting to give yourself and your baby a better chance. I don't know if you have relatives or close family friends who could adopt the babies, but that would be a nice option to.
I wish your family the best of luck as you make your decision and hope that your husband will be able to find it in himself to support your daughters as best he can. Maybe you can get some help from a therapist. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.
Amy
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