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It makes alot of sense, but you have to realize that in this time of him finding his identity is exactly what it is, and that is, in HIS time, when HE comes to that realization. You are already at a place where you have this recognition, he however may not be there yet. In other words, you have the answers, where he may not have even figured out what the questions are Does that make sense to you. I know for me that looking back even though I grew up knowing my birthmom, I had no idea she was my birthmom. Frankly, I am glad I didn't know because I think I would have been torn as far as knowing where my loyalty was. I know it is easy to say "just be patient", but what other choice do you really have? You say that he is in therapy and that is a good thing, hopefully he will come to realize that you are key in helping him in his quest for identity. I have been around the adoption search/unite arena or quite some time and I can tell you first hand that aside from it being a rollercoaster of emotion, one of the worst things is to push a relationship when one side is not ready. The only PUSH there can be is Pray Until Something Happens, anything else might blow up in your fae nd cuse reentment. Many times I have seen one side say "well they hate or they don't want to know me so I ll take a chance in prematurly pushing to pursue a relationship". More freuent than not, this causes far more damage and pain than if they had waited things out. Again, I will tell you that you will be in my prayers.
Maryann
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