[Patty-cake]

Yes your b.mom has problems but you don't deserve to be abused and that is what is happening.

My only other suggestion is that perhaps you could invite her to go to counciling with you to work on your relationship. She might do it and she doesn't seem inclined to go on her own.

Some of this anger may be due to the having had to tell you about the one night stand- something she probably feels guilty an embarrised about. She may fear that you might reveal that information to other family members- like her husband. Who knows? We can only guess.

I have had a lot of distress since my daughter pulled away shortly after meeting me in person. However, I never mistreated her. If it comes down to your having to walk away you should not feel guilty. You can't afford to stay upset all the time.

I will say a little prayerfor you both- Patty