[SingleMama2B]

Hi Lorraine.... I see what you are saying. What I was saying is, is that the ongoing abuse (I believe, locking him for extended periods of time, etc.) is very abusive. YOU do NOT do this. I personally could not imagine 'disrupting' an adoption, but you can be sure, that I would before I would intentionally hurt a child. NO one can tell me, that abusing this child over a period of time was or is O.K. Maybe loosing your temper once, but not to do this repeatedly. There are many different ways of obtaining help..... to include the hotlines, area or county services, ARC, etc. Any help is better then no help.

I don't want to be flamed either, but to hear of an abuse case that was going on for a period of time, I do NOT have ANY sympathy for those PEOPLE! I am sorry if I get anyone upset, but that is my feelings. AND, they certainly deserve a H**L of alot more then 4 years... sickening!

P.S. I too did NOT have ANY preparation (from my agency or anyone) regarding possible issues/problems with IA Children (especially older children). I read as much as possible on my own, researched, etc. I have found out that my old agency is now Requiring Course Training prior to your paperwork can be handed in for translation, and ONGOING training thereafter!