Thanks for the great suggestions ladies.
We just had our in-home therapy session, and I posed this question to the therapist. Get his opinion on record. He also said danged if you do, danged if you don't, but then he asked an interesting question. What would T say if we asked if he wanted to spend the day with me?
I said if we were going to lunch or something where he would benefit he'd probably say yeah, come up, but if it were just a "visit" he probably wouldn't care either way.
He also said that by giving him the choice if we do go up and things turn bad and we get the inevitable question "why did you even come up here" we can answer with "well, you wanted us to".
I'll probably break down and do the obligation thing, but will not give T a chance to benefit from this at all. I do like the idea of doing it on Saturday. And Tybee, I think a day at the spa sounds good. Thanks for the reminder.
