[babymeows]

I am sorry to hear that you have not found your sisters yet. Please dont give up. Our birthmother also had 3 of us before she tied her tubes after I was born. My brother and I were in and out of foster homes since we were born. We all had different fathers, and our older sisters dad got full costody of her when she was 1yr old. We never realy got to know her.

My brother and I always hoped she had a good life and thought that because her dad cared enough to get her that she probably had a good life. The last time we saw her was her 8th b-day. I was 3 and my brother was 5. We had not had hardly any contact before that because her father did not want her to have anything to do with us or our bmother who we still were in contact with and were still in and out of her home. The only reson we got to see her then was because our foster pairents at the time did everything they could to get us the visit. They are now our mom and dad, and we love them very much.

When our bmother found us about a month ago, so did our sister! We found out her life had not been a good one at all. She has been looking for us since she was 16. She remembers us when we got to see her on her 8th birthday. Her dad gave her up to the state when she was 11yrs old, and went to live with our b-mother when she was 14. She suffered alot of abuse from her father, such as he got drunk and broke a board over her back. She is 30yrs old now and has alot of back problems because of it.

When she went to live with our bmother at 14. Our bmother got drunk and passed out while my sister got raped by our bmothers husband of the time.

My sister got maried and had 3 children. Her husband that she was maried to for 12yrs beat her and there kids. Her children have been taken away from her about a year and a half ago. She is almost through her divorce now but it is to late for her to get her kids back. The state says she can not protect them. Her older 2 are in one foster home that they have been in since they were taken away, but the 6yr old has been in many different foster homes. Although I have never met them I am now trying to adopt them, so they can stay together.

I am so glad that we are in contact with our sister, but like you I dont want a relationship with our mother, we went threw so much pain in our childhood. I have blocked everything out from before I was 8yrs old, but my brother has not been able to. He remembers the mental, phisical, and sexual abuse we both had to go through.


Please dont stop looking for your sisters. Untill you find them you will not know if they are realy happy or not. For me I can no longer hope everything went well for my sister. I hope you find them and I hope they had good lives. They will probably love having another sister!

Sorry this was so long.