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Okay this is my two cents. My DH and I made the decision that instead of having a third child that we would adopt. The next decision was where and either a girl or boy. We have friends that have adopted from China (and have two bio children like us) so we spent a lot of time with them reviewing the process, the country, wait times, etc. We also have friends that have adopted from Russia, but they wanted to adopt a boy. When we first started we were told that the wait time from LID to referral was about 8-12 months. When we were logged in, we were told expect 12-18 months. Now, who knows how long the wait will be. We are not getting any younger and if we had to make the decision over again and if the wait times were expected to be 23-36 months I think we would have gone to another country. I know there is a little girl out there that is waiting for us, and we as a whole family are waiting for her. However, my older daughter who will be attending college in 2 1/2 years really wants to know her little sister before she heads off.
So, if one of my friends asked me if China was the way to go for IA. I would go through the timeline, tell them to expect changes, delays, paperwork challenges, fingerprint and SW updates. And then have them make the decision on whether they can take the wait.
I am not negative against the China adoption, I really can't wait to meet my new little girl, I just wish it would happen within a timeframe that was expected last year.
Each person has to take in the facts and go from there. Rumor Queen has a lot of statistics that can be reviewed to help make that decision.
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