[PiperH]

We agree with Electric Gypsy. It really does depend on the situation. You definitely want to make sure they know everything that is known about the process, and let them choose. If someone wants to sign up for this wonderful, frightening ride, we welcome the company.

Sometimes what other hope do you have?

We're trying DHS, for nearly three years now, and other than our social workers changing due to switching jobs or burn out (we're on our fourth), nothing has happened; domestic adoption seems less predictable since you have to wait in line and rely on someone to pick you and any agency we've looked into has wanted a lot of money and all of it upfront (we also fear the birth parents changing their minds); no other international program seems any more stable than China right now.

We'll hold on to hope and to China for now. Nothing else has cropped up out there that seems anymore stable. And nothing in life is predictable.

We do understand the frustration, though. Every day.