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I would be really interested in any books or other information resources anyone could suggest on this subject as well. My daughter has three biological siblings also who may or may not end up living with birthmom and birthdad (court date is next month). I want her to know they exist, and if they go to an adoptive family outside the birth family, I would like for them to exchange photos and letters, and maybe meet once in a while. But I want to handle it in such a way as to minimize her confusion (knowing that there will be some, no matter what). If they go back to the birth family, there will be no contact, other than that I will give them a friend's name and address to contact if they ever want to contact my daughter when she's older.
I also have the problem that birthmom wanted the three older kids, and is fighting to get them back, while she allowed my daughter to starve (13 pounds at 10 months old!!). She and birthdad willingly signed my daughter over to the state months ago. How do I explain that they wanted her brothers and sister, but not her? And in this case, it was obviously not because they could not provide for her, they just didn't want her - period.
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