[stevekaren]

Hi Becky,

Our son has three half-brothers -- two are grown (22 and 20) and one (9) lives with our birthmother. We have a semi-open arrangement -- it was quite open prior to our son's birth, but the birthmother has requested only letters and photos going forward. Our son is only 3 weeks old, so this is all new.

Our current plan, based on our discussions with our son's birthmother, and because of our semi-open arrangement, there will be no on-going contact with them during his childhood, is to tell him about his half-brothers when he is 18. That may change -- I just don't know how inquisitive he's going to be. His half-brothers all know of him (we have a great picture of all 4 of them at the hospital), but based on friends that we have who were adopted, who were reunited with their birthparents and siblings at various ages, we think it's best to wait until he's 18.

That's just our situation - hope that helps a bit.