Reunion Gone bad
My birthmother and I met about 6 months ago now, and things are not
quite as great as they were well I guess you could say about the
first few weeks. She stays upset over the fact that I don't keep in
contact like I did in the beginning.
First off to explain a little about the situation of why.
When me and my two younger sisters were placed in foster care it was
1983, and I was 2, Rebecca Sue was 1, and Angela had only just
been born a few months before. We were all placed in custody of the
Norfolk Social Services in VA, all becasue of our mothers neglect to
care for us. She would lock us away in my room, with the two of
them, while she would go out, our father was rarely ever there due
to he was in the military and always out to see. She was an
alchoholic, and she was into some drugs as well. She does not
understand why I can hardly forgive her for this, along the top of
the fact when our father was home, my other two sisters were already
placed and I was still in and out of their home, due to them
fighting the courts for me to be placed, but she would leave me with
my birthdad, who molested me until I was nearly 5 when finally his
rights were completely terminated. Hers were still instated on
visitation rights, as I had finally been placed in a home, and that
is who my adopted parents are now. At any rate, I came to know all
the actual facts when I met her, and she gave me her court papers
from one of the court proceedings in which she was trying not to
have her rights terminated. In those papers it shows and says
exactly what I remember to the day, as well as what my own papers
say that my adopted paretns have. Also what many I have talked to
have confirmed what is true. I mean if you think about it, I have
cigarrette burn marks from her burning me, and the memories of being
locked in a room, in which still to the day I am scared to sleep
alone and in the dark. I am 22 for goodness sakes, but it has been
so hard to deal with her whining, and complaining, much less her
blaming everyone else for her own actions.
What do I do, do I keep a relationship with her, or break it
completely off with her. I tried to at first, but she kept emailin
me, and sending me things in the mail. Don't get me wrong the
pictures she has sent me of my birthfamily are great cause that in
the beginning when I started my search nearly 7 years ago, is all I
ever wanted. But its just getting to hard for me now. And also she
wants a mother daughter relatinship with me, and I can't give that
to her, because I have a mother whom I dearly love, and that took
care of me, fed me, clothed me, sat with me in the hopsital before
she even got me in which I was near death because of it.
Thanks,
Crystal Rose Kramer
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