Can I share how I'd feel as a bmom? I hope thats ok...cuz I'm gonna anyway
I would be BEYOND ticked off. You would be disrespecting my desires (and our agreement) by stepping on my toes and doing things behind my back.
Want to share pictures? Want to be available? Call her. Write her a note. Tell her you just wanted to see how she was doing...maybe she has changed her mind - maybe opening that door will create the opening she needs to move forward towards that.
So, my vote is for NO - don't share. If bmom wanted friends/family to have pictures, she'd give them - if she doesn't have them to give and hasn't shared, there is a reason and that needs to be respected - or it could do far more damage than you may ever know.