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I have to echo some of what Barksum has said too.
I would not advise any family to adopt a child of the same age and sex of the one in the home. For families who have been allowed to do this, I have not heard good results.
Imagine for a minute you had been taken from your dh and told you were going to be someone else's wife forever? Though he may treat you well, how might you feel? A child of age 11ish may come in with a lot of things to work on in her life. She may or may not be angry, she may or may not require a lot of time and outside support. She may or may not attach to her new family...
I'll extend my prayers to your family for answers and direction in how to adopt if it be God's will. I would personally recommend a younger daughter though.
Blessings,
Melissa
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Mommy by adoption to 2 beautiful boys, one born in '01, the other in '03. Now mommy to a new little girl born in '08, full bio to our oldest son. This adoption is in progress. We adopted through Oregon's DHS.
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