[sdiedre]

Wow, KLLoves.....what challenges you have had to face! I am awed by your strength....Many blessings to you and your son.

When I was a child my family fostered 'unwed mothers' through Catholic Family Services. One girl was pregnant by a much older man, made vulnerable by her own father's molestation of her. Another got pregnant as a way to get out of her home where her two brothers and a neighbor were molesting her.

When I was 12 I was kicked out of the catholic school I attended for telling a nun (who was telling us to avoid a pregnant girl as she was going to hell) that she would be in hell to greet that girl. My mother, when told the story by the indignant nun, told her she fully supported my opinion! LOL!

I think everyone involved in foster, adoption, etc has a story that could easily crush the average person.....perhaps thats WHY they are involved.....they are/were an average person.

My heart goes out to everyone - parent, child, family, community - that has to deal with the many horrors that are perpetrated on a daily basis. My hope is to adopt a child from the foster system and to perhaps offer them a safe haven and the opportunity to grow up without some of these challenges.

screamin - I can appreciate your frustration with your son's bmom's decisions.....one way to handle this frustration, perhaps, is to recognize that anyone who treats themselves with so little respect probably learned they 'weren't worthy' at a very young age. What a sad lesson to learn from those who were meant to protect, respect and love us!

Best wishes to you all, and a special hug to those fighting the effects of rape to continue to build a strong and happy life!!