I happy to know that I am not alone but also sad to know others have had to endure this. I too have a child that was conceived through rape. I did know my attacker and as previously mentioned by another lady, he just... snapped?! I tried to work with him because I was scared I would be unable to do it alone. He began to give me ultimatums (is that how you spell it) trying to force me into marriage either by anger or guilt. It hurt. I finally gained the strength and broke free. So he decided he would no longer be a part of his sons life. My son was two at the time. Since then he (the father) has stalked me, threatened me, even attempted to end my life. I got a restraining order and then hadnt talked to him in three years, then one day his new childs mother sent me an evil email questioning the paternity of my child, etc. We do have a paternity test in which he requested when my son was six months old (as if he forgot wht he did!) a few weeks after the handful of cruel emails I see them in public and shes yelling obscenities at my child and I. Over the past 10 years I have just been victimized over and over again. I have been asked why I didnt abort or set up adoption, I feel my son is my responsibility and it wasnt his fault I choose to accept to be the best mom I can be to him. He may be my only child and he looks so much like me!
He's going to be a great man someday.
Sorry back to the topic at hand, I gave my son the soft truth about how he "became" I told him his father and I were friends but he wanted me more than I wanted him and he thought we should make a baby... so he did. as he got older he wanted more detail so I then told him that his dad had sex with me but I wasnt happy because he didnt let me decide when I was ready. His father doesnt pay any child support and the only time he communicates is when hes causing havoc in our lives which happens every 2-3 years. It makes life hard and I know I suffer from PTSD but my son is the light of my life. If he didnt turn out to be the person he is, I dont know if I would made it this far! It's crazy sometimes think about the irony.
PS I never talk bad about his father to my son. I do tell my son he is a little sick right now and that he should pray for him to get better so that one day they can talk about things.