[vicrose]

Oh my, I just had to write you....Have you ever heard out of site out of mind....I believe that your husband wants to adopt these children and make a better life for them, but if this man is out of they're life and has been for some time, don't trust that the courts won't try to re-establish a relationship with the kids and your ex. Trust me it happened to me...my ex was a big time abuser to me, and he just walked into court and made me look like the nut-case, and even after my attorney had told of all the abuse that happened in the home..they still granted him visitation..the courts are ridiculous. My new husband has been a saving grace to my children, he hasn't adopted them, but he has been there emotionally, finacially , etc. for 11 years. Trust me, build your family, adoption is not going to change anything, so long as your ex doesn't know your address, and doesn't want any contact with his children, so be it....out of sight out of mind....don't trust the courts.....