[Amysue1112]

Today I was invited to fill in for a Bunco group. Everyone was very excited to hear about our adoption (I only knew 2 of them so most it was our first meeting). One woman had a grandson adopted from Russia and the family just started the adoption of another child.

Just in casual chat, I told her about the Adoptive Family Vacation in July...she sort of turned away (not rude, just sort of...ending the conversation?) and I heard her say to another woman and said this...well, this is the basic jist..not exact words..but something about "they got him out of Russia...he is an American, the LAST thing they want to do is do a trip like that with other adoptive families.....and for sure I heard "but I guess some people see things differently".(insert a sort of grimace, sort of "oh my gosh!" look, sort of "wow what an oddball" look.

Then she had other comments about Russia and the people..I won't repeat...at first I was sort of like..hmm..how strange...
But the more I think about it the more it angers me. Her little grandson's ROOTS are in Russia....and just b/c he was adopted and is an American now, it does not mean they should not encourage him to meet other adopted kids from his birth-country and others. Am I way off here?? Do these people plan on "brushing under the rug" that he is adopted and from Russia? Wow, this has really irritated me.

I have heard plenty of stupid comments like "do you know who her real mom is?" or "you picked a cute one!" ARGH...But at least I can try to see that these comments were not meant may have not been meant to sound the way they did...

But in this situation, I can't imagine that someone thinks we are sort of "strange" to celebrate with other adoptive familes..to celebrate Hannah's birth country..I have even worked to connect with kiddos from Hannah's orphanage, and I "hope" this will be helpful to Hannah is the future. But then again, if she sees herself as an American only and does not want connections to Russia, I can understand and respect that. Oh geez, sorry I am rambling...just wanted to know what your thoughts were....maybe someone can help me put these comments in perspective and understand where she was coming from.