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Big Hugs and support! We all understand your pain, it's normal for you to feel all the things you feel. It's hard enough being a first time mom, let alone being a birth mom. You will make it through. Whatever you do, don't turn to drugs or alcohol to try and mask the pain. Cry and feel the pain now, because it will only come back to haunt you later if you don't. I learned that the hard way.
Make sure you talk about your labour and birth with those you trust, and with ONLY those you trust.
Don't go around telling everyone what you have just been through. You will not get the reaction you hoped for from most people, and you may lose some friends too. I also learned that the hard way.
Whenever you need to...talk on this forum. I wish I would have known about this 6 years ago, I didn't think there was anyone out there to help me, so I messed up 4 years of my life getting drunk and taking drugs.
You will be ok, in time. But it will take time.
There are plenty of books out there. Search for Birth parent books on Google. You will find some help!
Make sure your parents or someone is there for cuddles. Remember new moms have a baby to cuddle normally, so it's normal to want to be extra physical at this time.
x Good Luck! XXX
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