It has been a while and you know how you react when you are upset and sad and disappointed and miserable and unhappy...and then sometimes you forget to share when things are going GREAT...well, after almost six years of disconnection and feelings of rejection, I am delighted and proud and thrilled to report that I spent the day with my daughter Star and her sons and boyfriend and you know what? I DO have a daughter. I DO feel like her mother...and she never forgot about the ones who raised her...halleluiah!
What have I learned? I learned it is important to support the need to reunite that might exist in the child you adopt. I learned that although painful, you must let them go to find their way...and then be ready to forgive all the hurt when (and if) the time is right come together again. I gave it all up long ago...but you know...it is nice that we were able to return to what I always wanted to have...A RELATIONSHIP.
Thanks for reading my posts about the pain I was going through and now I am ready to share again...now that I am in a much better place.
The greatest thanks to LOVE4 for years of e-mails after meeting on THIS site...we have been able to support and encourage and vent and even meet in person...this site helps...people who aren't involved in adoption, whether birth parents, adoptive parents, adoptees don't really get it like those of us who are IN it...we need each other.
I am feeling fantastic...finally.
