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I am sorry that you are having this problem with your son's parents. As an A-parent in an open adoption with both my son's bmoms I can only tell you this. When we went into adoption with our oldest and found that the adoption had to be open I thought "are you crazy, I'm raising him, he's mine and he can make the choice when he is 18 as to if he wants a relationship with his bmom." I had never heard of such a thing, all my friends who had been adopted or adopted kids never had any contact with their birthparents. I am telling you this because maybe his mom and dad feel threatened about having you in their life because they have never heard of such a relationship and don't understand how wonderful it can be for everyone! Also maybe their son does not want to meet you and they feel that they are protecting him. Again about my son who is eight, he at this point wants no relationship with his bmom. He did before and lately has not. It is probably just his age right now, I continue a relationship with his bmom and I think that one day again he will want one again with her too. I know these are just possibilities and may not be the case in your situation. Hopefully, if it is only his parents that don't want the contact they will learn more about openess and not be so defensive and maybe come around. Openess is a wonderful thing and we insisted we wanted that for our second child, funny, everyone is scared of the unknown, but once you give it a try it might be oh so great!
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