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both the good and the hard. That is exactly some of what I needed as we work to make this decision. For me, it is good to hear that some of you who have experienced this have found it a positive experience and others say they wouldn't do it again. Now we have to decide what we are willing to go through to add another child to our family. DH and I seem to work well at reaching a consensus on most things and when we can't, then we wait.

Funny to me anyway... as we have reached a consensus we are both comfortable with... we are going to wait!!!! We aren't ready to decide whether we're done adding to our family, and we decided that's okay. It almost sounds indecisive but really, it feels good to know we talked about it and can say we don't know what we want so we'll just wait to see how life develops for us. After all, when DD joined our family, we were certain we wouldn't go through the process again. WIthin six months (on the drive home from finalization to be exact) we had our first conversation about the possibilities.

We feel we do know what to expect on some level based on our parent prep and foster training and our previous homestudies. And right now, we're NOT ready to start. But we're not ready to close the door finally either. What we know from our research is that FTA will be the avenue we will use if we do choose to add another child to our family.

But right now, we are parenting two great kids and our life is incredibly full and busy. Even though they came to us through a private domestic infant placement, they both have some issues/potential issues based on their prenatal history. We need to see how things unfold in the next couple years. And then maybe then we'll know.

THanks again for taking the time to share your experiences!!!