[TandSmom]

What are your thoughts on this? My daughter would like my husband to adopt her. Her bio father rarely sees her, he hardly calls, he hasn't paid support in a good 2 years and she is just hurt and feels rejected by him. She really has no interest in seeing him any more and wants my dh to adopt her. He has been around since she was 3, she is now 10. How should we proceed? My ex has previously signed off rights to his 3 daughters from his 1st marriage, so he has done this before. He is on his 3rd marriage now with a step-son of his own and a new bio son. I personally think the man needs to be fixed, but I can't make that a law! LOL

Any suggestions or advice on how to proceed would be greatly appreciated. I feel so bad for my dd and my ds, but he really doesn't express as much as she does. He keeps it to himself. But he has refused to go visit my ex, so I know he wouldn't have much of a problem with this. He would like to keep his last name, is that a possiblity? My husband now pays and takes care of everything for these children, as if they were his own bio kids. The only thing that would change would be the legality of it all and the name changes if necessary...

This is new to us and we are just exploring, so sorry if I ramble! LOL

Thanks in advance for any help and direction you are able to give.

We live in Ohio. We had a do-it-yourself divorce with shared parenting, so that I could just be divorced from him. He has never kept a job that long so forcing support was going to be useless, so I was trying to be nice by not doing that, with the implied that he would pay anyways. See what I get for trusting him?!!?!?

Thanks,
Mom in Ohio