[vicrose]

This note is directed to A Mothers Love....I am an adult adoptee age 36 and can sense your utter frustration with the situation you are in. I started looking for my biological family when I was 17 and still do not have a thread of clues as to her whereabouts, mainly because my adoptive father has contacted everyone from the agency to the state and told them not to give me any info at all..do you know how bad this makes me feel. Sometimes adoptive parents are scared of what we might do..I think maybe they are insecure..well, they should only feel insecure if they've treated us unkindly over the years. Anyway, let me get back to your situation....I think I would of loved to have met my birthmother at 14..but I know that my adoptive parents would of never allowed it. I would of loved to tell her how much I have thought about her over the years....but even though you are very hurt right now with everything that's gone on..keep the faith, and trust that your son will come around, if not today..then maybe a few years down the road..boys are a little more immature than girls at that age..so it may take him a while..but trust in God that he will be happy and healthy......God Bless You....