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appreciation
Lucyjoy, you are still not grasping what I am trying to say, my whole point is I DO NOT want contact with my son at this time, but with his parents. So yes please I would appreicate you not responding. You are sounding very one track minded. This is not about contacting my son. As ADad stated this has already been established, there is no going back now. Further more, a letter directed at his parents is not going to harm anything, hopefully they are not the type of parents to still be believing in the "as if born to" for we all know that is an impossible feat. I will continue sending these small tokens again to his parents for you are right they are his parents, but should not stop contact if he does so wish. Yes Adad I am entering the teenage years with my other two out of three as we speak. My son is the rebel and I do have complete understanding what patience and understanding it takes to raise teenagers in this day and age, again this is why I do not contact my son F/t/F. His parents dont know me at all, I recieved my sons adoption records from the freedom of information and they were so full of lies. I was fourteen when I had him and the papers stated I was sixteen. They had my description all wrong..ect and so on. so whatever his parents know are lies as well, through the two emails I did send I put my lfe in a nutshell for them. Putting pertinent information that I thought they might want, Truly I was so terrified of not being good enough in their eyes I tried not to say to much. I did tell them that I loved "our" son and that I did have his best interest at heart. I have done extensive councilling on my issues already. I guess what I am hoping for is maintaining a relationship with them, or building one first I should say. I am starting to think though that his not in their minds...the only thing I can say it will be their loss.
Hugs
Melissa
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