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Like most things in life, it's pretty easy to say how things ought to be in the abstract, but much harder when you're actually made to deal with the situation. They may have always thought they'd support your decision (and perhaps in their minds they are being supportive) but your perception of what's supportive isn't the same as theirs. If you aren't a parent yet yourself, it may be hard to understand just how painful this may be for them----just as it may be hard for them to really get what you're going through.
One other thing occurs to me---is it possible that your aparents know something about your bmom that you don't know at this point in your reunion? The reaction you describe from your aparents sounds almost more like fear or trepidation that you'll get hurt than anger or jealousy over the relationship with your bmom. Was there some other contact earlier or some incident that could be causing that? I don't want to imply that must be the case, but it seems a question worth asking.
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