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A Thought
You have mistaken me still Lucyjoy, I believe how I mentioned that I had some problems dealing with the go-between, I will elaborate so I am not seen as a trespasser into my sons life, The gobetween seemed unnaturally involved I will not elaborate on that suffice it to say she was very emotionally abusive to me, and led me to confusion about my sons parents and him even knowing. I wrote him a letter, I did direct it at him, after six months of thought, I didnt contact his parents for at fourteen he is his own person and at fourteen should be able to make a basic decision like reading a letter I wrote. I did put my contact information on the letter, it would have passed through them to him in any case. I do not know why I feel like I am being attacked by you I am sure that is not your intention, perhaps it is just your words that are getting me defensive. I do not believe that his parents have the right to tell me to stay away, only he has that right. Just as I dont have any right to walk up to his door. As an adoptee he does have the right at any age to wonder about me. I did write his parents a letter as well, explaining to them why I thought it best to write him. I have not heard any response from them, like I said I do not want to enter my sons life until he is ready, but I am not understanding why they answered my ad, yet want me to go away, this was in the first email. Why did they not just ignore me? I feel/felt very abused and disrespected. I do have rights too. Please do not tell me I gave up my rights. As humans we have rights. I will not sever contact even if it means only sending cards at Christmas and Birthday. I cannot lose him again. I FULLY understand he has another family, but I will be there if he wants me to be. With or Without his parents consent, for it is him that matters not me and not them but him
Hugs
Melissa
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