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I am an adoptive mom in an open adoption with my daughter's birthmom. However, my daughter is only two. I am so sorry you are going through this. Your aparents obviously love you very much. It's apparant that they feel conflicted over this aspect of your life.
They probably feel like they are losing their child (even though you make every attempt to assure them that is not the case). It's just raw emotion.
I'll be honest with you, sometimes when my daughter's birthmom calls, (and I know she is at peace with her decision to place), I get a twinge of annoyance/jealousy. I don't want to "share" my daughter, she is MINE!
But that's not truley the case. She not only has a birthmom, but a bdad and three FULL BLOODED siblings. They all love her tremendously. They all want a relationship with her.
I recommend you write your aparents a letter. Sometimes it's easier to read something concrete, than to absorb abstract emotions.
In the meantime, continue to forge forward with your relationship with your birthmom. Your aparents WILL eventually come around.
Please let us know how things progress.
Julie
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