joskids,
Unfortunately in the state I live in there would be no way we could do that with out it being considered abusive. I am not saying that what you did was right or wrong I am just saying what the state would say.
i do need to tell you "giving in" to a child's needs to be fed is building trust in them that Yes there will be food, yes you will feed them and No they will not run out of food. I am sorry to say that many children who do not have access to food will turn to eating Non food items.
I know this because mine was one of them. When they eat dirt, sand, paper, kitty litter, grass, paint, bark, the crib, shirts, diapers any thing they can bite with their little teeth and rip apart they will if they feel they are not going to eat.
I am sorry if my post sounds harsh, i don't mean it too. I am glad that turning your foster son to a wall and letting him scream worked for you. But can you tell me how long did you let him scream? Were you in the same room with him while he screamed? Did the caseworkers and therapist know this is what was occurring? I am just curious about those things.
Just my opinions
Jody
