[joskids]

We had a foster son that came at 14 mos. from the only previous foster home he had known since birth. She was also supposed to be a great foster mother (until they quickly removed the kids because the feeling is that they were left in their room together for long periods of time and he was just given bottles in bed to quiet him. Talk about EATING ISSUES!!! Anyone who doesn't "believe you" is an idiot. These issues wore me down so much. He would SCREAM for food and had clearly had enough to eat. We were firm, fed him what he needed and did not give in. We turned his highchair toward the wall and walked out of the room and let him scream. I know this seems cruel to some but he's now with a wonderful adoptive family and doing very well. We just had he and his sister to dinner and saw no more eating issues. I don't think it's right to just GIVE IN to a child that is hoarding and gorging himself but that's my 2 cents and I know many won't agree. I DO KNOW how difficult it was for me with him and would clearly understand anyone who needed to vent to me about it if they were having similar issues. Caseworkers should be aware of these issues and more sympathetic.