Thank you so much for all of the feedback and information! It just gets so crazy and we don't know what to do. Tonight we found him hiding in our bedroom eating a leftover cracker that our older son left on the kitchen table. Typically he would just eat in front of us. I fear that we may have made this a little worse because we did make such a big deal of it. It is so hard to back off because he is so crazy when it comes to food and we get so frustrated with the tantrums. But we are all trying.
I just find it so hard to believe that a child so young could have such a problem. The foster mom and our social worker thought we were crazy when we told them how bad it has gotten. They said that a child that young can't remember food issues to have a problem. Glad we are not crazy!!
We are going to love him and support him as much as possible and hope we can make it better.
He seems to have some attachment issues to, when he gets mad, he hits himself and runs from us. He will NOT run to us. We try to cuddle him when angry or sad and he wants none of it. He wants to hit himself, throw things and hide in a corner. It's so sad. We do pick him up and hold him and try to let him see we are not mad at him and that we are going to love him and cuddle him. It's so crazy that he is so young and so full of problems.
What really confuses me most is that he spent 10 months in what is supposed to be one of the "best" foster families around, yet he still has such issues. Am I expecting too much of the foster parents or of him?
