Hi ... I understand. We have recently ended our term of fostering a 13 year old girl - A child I know and love, and child I desperately wanted to help. I also have four boys of my own - ages 7,6,5 and 1 (two bio, two adopted) . I spent the whole time working with her - pouring my heart and soul into her, desperately trying to "save" her from the path she was on (drugs, dropout, boys etc). My kids lost out - my marriage lost out and mostly I lost out. She gained alot but at what expense and in the end we had to let her go. We talked to the boys again about taking in another child, our 6 year olds response (and this about a child they used to adore and idolize) "Well as long as its not A. - You were ALWAYS dealing with her and you could never deal with me" I dont know if I could undo if I would because I dont know if I could of lived with myself if I hadnt of tried but if I were to be asked again I would say no. My kids are my "ministry" they are only this little, this young and this MINE
for a very short period of time - I have now vowed to treasure that time. I will save the world when they are a little bit more grown.