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To answer your specific question, a LOT of that has to do with how you act and what you do from this point forward.
For instance, this child needs to receive professional help with her issues. If she receives it from this point forward to the best of your ability, then that's good. If she doesn't receive it, or if youcould be perceived as doing only a partial job of getting her professional help, that's bad.
If you do your research about ways that you can disrupt this adoption with the least amount of affect to the child, talking to lawyers, counselors, etc, that's considered good.
But if your questions center mostly about what YOU get to do or not do after the disruption, that's bad.
If you find a reputable adoption agency (or attorney, however it works in your state) and place your child for adoption lovingly and cooperatively, answering all their questions and providing all her records, that's good.
If you show up at the local Child Protection office and say "I can't handle her" and drop her off, that's bad.
Does that make sense? It's not the actual choice to place your child for adoption with another family that could disqualify you from adopting in the future, it's really about how you handle it. Some things will be looked on badly, and some things will be looked on well.
Women who place their biological children for adoption are permitted to adopt later in life (assuming they meet all the other qualifications), so a woman who places her adopted child for adoption would be permitted to adopt later too (again assuming you meet all the other qualifications).
I'd encourage you to find an adoption counselor to talk to. Be sure you have somebody on YOUR side who can talk you through all the conflicting feelings you must have right now. Someone knowledgeable about the adoption community who can advise you about the options and choices you have in front of you.
Hang in there!
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