[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

I read that if you don't tell a child until they are older (teenage) then they will forever wonder what else you never told them or "lied" about.

I believe it can be detrimental to a child if they are not told the truth. Especially if there are other people who KNOW the truth. For example, my neice is not my brother's daughter biologically. When my brother and his now EX wife were going thru one of their separations she got pregnant. They reconciled and she was raised as my brother's daughter in every way. BUT, during their recent divorce now 9 years later, the issue of him being her father or not has come to light. They have never told her otherwise, now she does not know why her parents are making the fight for the kids SO focused around her. She asks why she does not look like her brothers and sister.(blue eyed blondes with olive skin tones/brown eyed brunett with pale skin tone) In school this last year she had to be enrolled by the legal name on her birth certificate...not my brothers. Even with all these questions they have never told her the truth. SO, what about when the BIG issues come about? Drugs, sex, etc...when she does find that her parents have been lying to her this whole time, will she believe the warnings they try to instill about these topics?

Even with our 2 adoptions, it was a pretty good opportunuty to discuss these facts, but they did not. It breaks my heart because EVERYONE including her brothers and sister and even my children know the truth...everyone except her. BTW...my children only know because I had assumed that she had been told the truth a long time ago and when my s-daughters asked why she looks different I told them the truth.