[MrsCinderella]

I truly feel that birth parents are giving us adopting parents a gift and I belive they have a right to choose. If I give a gift to someone, i'm not asking them if they'll like it, its "here is my gift".

If a birth mom wants holidays with the kids, I see no problme with them coming over to our families home. My husband and I are compltey comfortable with the birthmom making the decision and we just follow. If we dont like their requests, we simply move onto another birthmom. That birthmom will find their perfect family.

We had a failed adoption 2 years ago and although she kept the baby, we still have contact and we had a lot of contact with her entire family. The family interviewed us and asked us all kinds of questions.

Everyone has someone out there, you just have to find the perfect forever family.

You can choose open and later choose closed or do closed in the beggining and later do open. You make the decision !

Birthmoms.. remember! Your giving us a gift bigger than anyone can give. Dont settle!!