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Changing names
My first adoption through foster care will be complete April 10th of this year. In our daughters case we did change her name, but for very personal reasons. As an adult adoptee who desperately searched for my Bio-parents it meant the world to me to know they named me. It said so much, like I was loved enough to have a name. Not just some baby that was wisked away and never thought of again. A name means so much, in a way it really binds you to a family. So we gave my daughter the name I had chosen as a child, and had given to every red headed, green eyed doll I had. It just so happens that my daughter has red hair and green eyes. Sort of like it was all meant to be. It was my way of telling her that she was the little girl I has always dreamed of.
Now I have another adoption in the works, and we are changing the name in this case as well. However we have one little one in our home now, that if we had the opportunity to adopt we would not be changing her name. I believe this is mostly due to the fact that we believe her name fits, we love saying it so. Plus we have gotten to know the Mother and I feel a bond and obligation to her as well. It is all something very personal and you should not feel badly if you decide to do so. As an Adoptee I consider it a wonderful gift and I am sure your child would feel the same.
Jamie
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