[noerose]

hi,
i have a 3 yr old and one due next month. My son has not seen his bf in over a year and has my hubby as Daddy for a year and a half. we are actually going thru a step parent adoption at the moment...the bf signed a term of rights paper
anyways we are planning on telling our son about his bf but we want to wait until we feel he can understand the issue. if he happens to ask any ?'s before than we will have to answer them, as his birthmom i feel like it is my responsibility to tell him any info he wants to know--especially if he asks. our plan is to tell him around 6 or 7 -- i would rather have him grow up with the info, rather than tell him when he's too old and it be a shock more than just a simple fact that he lives with. I grew up w/o my birthmom and always knew it and never had any problems with it. my son still sees his bio- grandparents so i know the ?'s will most likely arise eventually, i feel that if we make it simple and talk to him like its no big deal then he will take it that way--what matters most are the people in his life who love him and take care of him and that will always be his mommy and daddy.