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Thanks for your advice and encouragement. I love my husband so much and I hate seeing him in pain and confused. He still isn't ready to talk to his bmother again and said that he'd feel better if I just talked to her for a while until he was ready. He said that he doesn't want to hurt her but he just can't talk to her again yet. I've since spoken with her on numerous occasions and my husband gave me permission to email her and send her pictures of us and our children. She REALLY loved the pictures and she is very respectful and understanding of his space so I think this will eventually help in my husband making that decision to proceed because she is handling this with such a sense of respect toward him. He still hasn't even told his mom that he has been in contact with his bmother and that is really the hardest thing that he is struggling with because he really is SO close to his mom and he just adores her so much, especially since finding out all that she sacrificied for him. His bmother is a very nice woman and I know that she really wants to meet him and the children but she has been a gem through all of this and I just think that she is a very brave and strong woman. I'll just continue praying for God's hand in this and that's all that any of us can really do. I've spoken to my hubby about counseling and he says that the only person he trusts is a pastor at our church so I think he plans to speak with him. I'm going to continue to encourage him to do so but he is very stubborn so I don't know how long it will take for him to come around but I'm just going to allow him to go at his own pace. It was really nice hearing things from the bmother's perspective when hearing from you. I can't imagine the pain that comes with not having your son want to see you or talk to you....I really feel for his bmom but I also know how difficult this has been for my husband. He just feels so torn emotionally. I wish that there was a clear answer to all of this where everyone would be happy and content...my husband's worst fear is hurting these 2 women. I think that's why he just avoids it all together because he sees both of their perspectives and feels for both of them and doesn't want to hurt either of them. I'm trying to stay positive through all of this and to stay strong for him. I hope that I've done the right thing.
Keara
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